being a single mother does not preclude necessarily that the child is fatherless per sey.`
the thing is when we are speaking about the single mother raising a son or sons, that is not necessarily suggesting that the father is out of the picture altogether.. there are a lot of single mothers that are indeed single and raising their sons still with the child’s father in the child’s life indeed .. so if we are to speak to the single mother that is not accompanied by the ex helping with their child and or children .. and she is indeed single and raising the boy or boys on her own then we are speaking to a very different dynamic ..
KINDS OF MOTHERS :
a young boy raised by a single woman in today’s world , it is tricky because now we have to speak on the kind of woman that is the single woman raising her son in the very real complex world of today as this is what will really affect the dynamics that will mold her son to either be the man he should become or the man he will become .. what if she falls into the category of a woman that wants to mold her son to be the perfect gentleman she thought she never was able to find in a man, well, if this is not balanced properly, this might very well make him unable to gauge properly how being a perfect gentleman is not always warranted and or needed, as it is not always called for. .
or lets say he was always prone to being around conversations or at least hearing conversations that his mother was involved in with other women all of the time, perhaps his grandmother , or her sisters and there was not a male figure to help mold him to include a little more of the masculine mystique qualities.. ? then that might help to mold him in ways that alter the dynamics in ways that might have been different for him had his father been more a part of the child’s life ..
there are different principles within certain classes of the psychology imposed upon the thinking of men that fit this narrative, and how their own personalities are developed and prodded by the feminine energies that help to evolve the man.. so therefore a man raised by his mother that has a better understanding of masculine and feminine energy will understand this balance even without having had a father around , and though not feminine at all might possess divine feminine traits such as an enhanced ability to feel for another person, (( a divine and feminine trait )) perhaps affection as he would learn more of this from his mother and even his ability to be a great lover to his fiance and or wife because of his understanding of those balances within the spectrum of the divine feminine ..
However if he had not understood balance yet and were never seeing the examples of what the interaction between male and female are in the physical world only perhaps maybe through television or some other form of indulgence then his sense of masculinity and or the way in which the divine masculine should ignite itself within the real world might be somewhat jaded or just misconstrued .. he might subliminally be acquiesced into a behavior he is not fully aware he is corresponding to .. because it would too depend on what age the child was when he was all of a sudden absent his father as a younger child would be more malleable and impressionable .. easily influenced so there would have to be special care in nurturing to hone the kind of person and individual she would want to produce ..
sometimes it is not the child however the parent that lacks the understanding of what is needed in the child’s life for healthy balance as to what would be structurally healthy balances within feminine and masculine and what their place is and when and how to use it within the dynamics of you being a man .. it is about learning from your mother but however also learning the leveraging aspect as to what you should use from your mother, when to use form your mother and also knowing what to throw away and and not use as it would not apply to you being a man (( such as maybe her feminine gestures )) or the way her mannerisms are )) or the way she might walk ro talk and or even interact with each other. the thing is it will always be hard for any parent to be successful in a single parent household i think for a woman it is even harder because the biochemical transformations that accompany pregnancy and childbirth ..
IMAGE OF FATHER :
Usually when the masculine energy from a young child wants to exrt itself in that the child is growing and learning as it slowly develops into manhood, it starts to seek energy that mimics it’s own purpose in mirror reflections of itself, and in that i mean the child will look at other males and other children’s fathers and start to align itself with those traits and with those of the characteristics which define what the child itself will deduce to be the masculine energy it wants to emulate ..
Though an image of the father might be fragmented and dispersed across a large portion of the communities does not itself elude to it being factual that it will indeed be a healthy image for a youth ..
VERY DESTRUCTIVE THINGS MOTHERS DO :
it is been accepted as truth to many that young boys especially black one’s will not have all of their needs met within a single family household as many of the lessons they learn oftentimes renders them lost or confused without any real sense of identity .. * speaking negatively about the father, * teaching the sons to not respect males and or male authority , * saying negative things about men in general ,* bringing in substitutes for a father figure , * projecting anger of the father on to the son , not allowing the father to see the child ..
therefore putting the child at a disadvantage ..
BLACK WOMEN’S INABILITY TO ACKNOWLEDGE WRONGS :
the women are better equipped than before to be able to raise children than from times of old ..
both parents had to work but his presence was still known and understood
you disagree about the women not necessarily needing a man because you say she is equipped yet you say it takes a village to raise a child the problem is what village are they in and or what are their influences , what is the child surrounded by .. ?
my parents both worked but i knew that there were dire consequences to me not following the guidelines of which was expected of me therefore my parents were still raising me outside of those other imposing influences .. my father was still a very dynamic figure , as was my mother so i knew balance i think having a 2 parent household teaches structure and balance , the highest divorce rate started was back in between the 70’s and 80’s
how strong women are ..
sure this may adhere to the woman egotism and sound very nice but these are simply just inane compliments that do nothing for the women’s learning attributes kind of like praising a working for doing half decent work on the job.